Ten Reasons Why Wedding Music is so Important


The importance of music at your wedding

Today we are going to explore wedding music, and why we think choosing the right wedding music is such an important part of your wedding day. 
It is amazing how, in the hustle and bustle of wedding planning, your music can get left out, and then seems more of a chore done in haste with time running out.

So don’t leave this important part of your wedding day to the last minute. Start thinking about those favourite tracks and making your playlists in good time.

For those feeling less inspired, we’ve selected a few of our favourites and created playlists which you can choose as they are, or use to inspire you as you create your own. Check out some of our favourites at the bottom of this blog… Happy choosing! 




“Walking into Cote How with our own music playing really made me feel so at home” – Cote How Bride

Music is such a powerful thing. Whether you’re married or not, we’ve all thought about wedding music at some point in our lives. Arguably wedding music is the most essential playlist we ever make. I guess it depends on what role music plays in your life. I love music and enjoy how a song can take you back to the moment you meet someone. This is why your wedding playlist is the perfect opportunity to create a tone for your day and rekindle precious memories of friends and family. 


From getting ready on your wedding day with loved ones … 

Getting Ready to Marry in the UK
Getting Ready to Marry in the UK

…to your big entrance and walking down the aisle!

Music-to-make-an-entrance-to by Jenna Carpenter

2 Music creates the impact

There are key moments when considering your music choices, such as the aisle moment and first dance, if you choose to have one. The aisle moment is potentially the first time guests catch a glimpse of the bride or groom, so the music needs to make an impact or hold some meaning for you as a couple. The wedding entrance music lets your guests know you are on your way, as they all stand and wait in anticipation!  It is an emotional moment and music enhances those feelings.

Wedding-Music--Abbie making her entrace with her Dad by Tom McNally Photography

3 Going out with a BANG!

Well, you have just gone and done it! Married at last, and you may be feeling a sense of relief once the most nerve-wracking part is over. It’s such a moment for celebration and joy – what will be on your mind as you both dance back down the aisle? 

I love it when the music says it all! Your exit music should be something uplifting and joyful. The music should radiate that surge of happiness that you’re feeling. 

Bride and groom celebrate their marriage with a jubilant wave
A moment for celebration
Barn Wedding - wedding breakfast set up with background music to eat to
Seating Plan headeaches? Jo Greenfield

4 The First Dance

When the newlyweds take centre stage on the dance floor it is time for the ever-anticipated first dance. A prevalent tradition in European and American cultures, it usually takes place after the meal to signal the start of the evening. As a couple, you can choose to make this a very personal and emotional moment, or get the party started with a high-energy track that invites everyone to join in! Lots of couples decide not to have a first dance, as we continue to see more informal and relaxed wedding styles. Do what feels right for you.

Bride and Groom having their first dance in the open air at Cote How
First-Dance-Music by Jo Greenfield

5 Music over the ages

Music has been a part of wedding celebrations since the late 16th century, although the role of music has changed over time. Sophie asked her 90-year-old Nanna about her wedding in 1958 and she still has fond memories of her wedding songs even after all these years. When she got married, her music choices were very limited. Back then, music was mainly found on the wireless, or if you were lucky enough to own a gramophone, it was those prized 78’s! 

Now in a world with online streaming, we have unlimited choices of wedding music at our fingertips, giving our nuptials that personal touch. Wedding music is more personal to the couple who can be inventive and expressive with their song choices. This makes the wedding more memorable and unique. 

Sophie's Nanna and Grandad on their wedding day 1958

6 Music brings people together

Music doesn’t only bring people together, but it magically fills any awkward silences when people are milling around.  For this reason, we recommend a milling playlist as this will add to the atmosphere of the day and ease any pre-wedding nerves, gently setting the tone for the day and making you feel at home.

Father and daughter dancing on her wedding day
Music-to-Dance-with-Your-Father by Jo Greenfield

7 Get your guests to contribute

Sometimes couples get overwhelmed when choosing music. Where do they start? Songs should be personal to you but not so obscure that your friends and family don’t enjoy them too.

It can be a good idea to involve family and friends. Have them choose a few tracks each, and intertwine them in your playlists, so everyone has a song they love, and there is something for everyone.  

8 different genres to different times of day

If your wedding day spreads over a full day and into the night, it is essential to make sure the music matches the time of day. For example, different-paced music is needed for the meal compared to the evening, when you’ll want it to be more upbeat if you’re planning to dance the night away. Create your playlists to build over time, building it throughout the night into more party vibes as the evening unfolds!  A good tip is to add some lovely mellow songs towards the end of your playlist to bring the energy levels down again as the evening draws to a close.

Luxury weekend Weddings - Sonos Wedding Music and English Sparkling Wine

9 Music is the most incredible entertainer

Most importantly, music keeps your guests engaged and interested whilst helping you feel at home and creating a relaxed atmosphere.

The added benefit here at Cote How is that we can play your Spotify playlists through our Sonos speaker systems in the house, the barn, and the gazebo, so your music can be enjoyed in the background wherever you are.

Music-to-have-a-moment-together by Delicious Photogrpahy

10 Music is a Memory Jerker

Music can evoke many memories, sometimes untapped for years. So often we hear guests at weddings saying… “Remember this!” or “Remember when…”. 

Music evokes old memories, brings people together, and leads to new memories being made, which is what your wedding day is all about… making new memories and new beginnings. 

Jess and Dan's First Dance by Stanbury Wedding Photography


For every wedding, we will need at least your “Ceremony” playlist. 
You might also wish to create a separate personalised milling list too.

To help get you started we have put together some of our most played songs for you. By clicking on them you will be directed to our Spotify and from there you can start to create your own, then share them with us.


You can make your ceremony playlist as fun or serious as you wish, but remember it must NOT feature anything religious, refer to God, Jesus, Mary or the Church or mention faith in any way, as this is a Civil Ceremony not a religious one. Your song choices will be vetted by the Registrars ahead of your wedding day.

To create your playlist:

  • Find your song – browse ours below or search for your own on Spotify
  • Click on the three dots on the right
  • Add to playlist – or create a new playlist
  • If new, then find that playlist – edit details – and name it with your wedding date (YY/MM/DD) – Ceremony”
  • Share – copy URL. Paste into your Wedding Checklist in your Portal
  • We will need:
    1x Entrance Song
    2 x Signing Songs
    1x Exit Song


This can be one long playlist or split into two. Name each playlist with your wedding date in this format “YY/MM/DD – ” followed by “Milling” or “Meal”. The length of this list will depend on your wedding style. 
For an Elope or Micro, make the playlist about 2 hours long. If you have chosen a Micro with Grazing Table make it 3 hours. For a 6-hour wedding make it 5 hours long. We can always “shuffle” the playlist if you are happy with that. If you are spending time outside in the summer, the chances are that not all the songs will be heard twice anyway! 

RECEPTION - luxe weekends only

Remember that if you have booked one of our 2-hour, 4-hour, or 6-hour packages these are limited in time and an evening reception is not included. So any favourite songs must be added to your milling list.

If you have booked an extended weekend wedding, then always begin your Evening playlist with your FIRST DANCE song, then we will make sure to play that in the correct order.

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Photography by:
Stanbury Photography
Jenna Carpenter Photography
Jo Greenfield Photography
Delicious Photography
Tom McNally Lake District Wedding Photography

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