frequently asked questions

Your Wedding Questions


We can arrange a show round of Cote How by appointment only, and we ask that just the two of you come to the venue. Weekends are an extremely busy time for us particularly in wedding season and we cannot offer show rounds when the venue is in use as each couple have sole exclusivity for the duration of their stay. 
For those travelling from afar we offer virtual guides via our Youtube channel or we can arrange a live virtual tour. 
To book a show round please request a CHAT first. You will receive an email with links to book a chat once you have made your wedding enquiry with us here: ENQUIRE HERE

Each wedding package will list which areas of the venue are included.

Summer weddings have the option for a house ceremony where all three receptions rooms will be open for the first half of the wedding, before moving the wedding to the barn for food and any evening reception afterwards. At this point the house will be closed for security reasons, and to suit the flow of your event.

Winter weddings use the house and terrace only plus access to the lake shore.
If your wedding is in the house only then all rooms will remain in use.

Cote How is proud to be one of very few venues that offer true exclusivity. Here you can rest assured that there are no other people will be on the premises for the duration of your wedding. 

Our published price list allows for variations in season and the use of all or parts of the venue within the packages. 
We will not offer any form of discount.
All quotes issued are bespoke to your particular needs and are valid for 7 days only.

Yes, the meadow leading to the lake edges of Rydal water is ours too, so unlike other venues you can actually take a short stroll along the river bank and dip your toes into the lake! Rydal Water is literally 200 metres from our barn gate and we do encourage you to take advantage of this amazing treat. Your photographs are so important and the views on the lake side are truly amazing! 

All guest numbers include the happy couple!


  • 24 people  for the wedding ceremony
  • 12 for a formal wedding breakfast 
  • Up to 12 for fine dining in the main reception room


  • 2-6 people for the wedding ceremony


  • Elopement ceremony for 2
  • Up to 12 for fine dining in the main reception room


  • Up to 24 for a wedding ceremony or wedding Breakfast 


  • Up to 6 for a wedding ceremony 

Midweek weddings all finish between 19:00-21:00 and include a little time for chilling at dusk.

Weekend weddings include an evening reception from 19:00 – 23:00


We do not allow marquees or teepees on site. As we specialise in smaller more intimate weddings, which suit our infrastructure, therefore additional capacity is not really required. If you are looking for a larger wedding then we feel that larger venues can accommodate this much easier.

Yes you have your own dedicated wedding planners with the Cote How Team who will guide you through every step of your wedding, plus offer you a whole host of resources to help guide you along your own wedding planning journey. Whether a simple 2 hour elopement or a complex Luxe weekend wedding, we are here for you, and have plenty of resources forms and checklists to help keep you on track and offer lots of guidance! 

Once you book with Cote How you will be invited to your own WEDDING PORTAL where all of oyur own prersonalised rescources will be stored. You can update your forms and checklists as you go, book appointments online, check on your invoices and aymment plans, and sign paperwork as necessaty! All digital and easy to use.

Once you have decided that you want Cote How as your venue, email Caroline to let her know and she will guide you through the steps.
You will be required to pay a £500 or £1,000 booking fee (dependent on the style of wedding) to secure the date whilst the paperwork and the registrars are confirmed. A booking is not confirmed until this has been received and your wedding contract signed. There is then a 7 day “Cooling Off” period after which time the Wedding Contract becomes binding. Please see full terms and conditions

The local registrar’s office is in Kendal:

County Offices
Busher Walk

Online Form: Registrar Wedding Enquiry Form

Tel: 0300 303 2472 (select South Lakes area)
or Email:

Yes! To arrange a viewing, please make an enquiry by downloading our wedding brochure and following all the links. First you will arrange a telephone chat where we will go through your ideas and dates and we will book you in for a viewing once we know we have availability to deliver the wedding you are hoping for!

Yes we encourage this in order to go through the details again closer to the wedding date. As our time and venue vacancies are extremely limited between events we do need to limit your visits to just one ‘Final Planning Meeting’. This is timed to be 8-12 weeks prior to your wedding date. You will come prepared having completed our online wedding planning client checklist and time line so we literally just need to check the finer detail at this stage. If you have suppliers such as photographers and venue stylists wishing to view the venue you must arrange for them to attend this meeting too. 

We try very hard to make the venue car-free enabling photography from any angle at any time, in this wonderfully natural and beautiful environment.
We move our own cars off-site too.
People driving to the venue expecting to park on site is what we wish to avoid. We do explain all of this in our Guest information Pack which is available from our client area once booked.
To avoid any stress on the day we highly recommend PRE-BOOKED TRANSPORT. 
Mountain Goat Executive MiniBuses will collect from B&B’s and Hotels nearby leaving you to focus on yourselves, and not worry about your guests.  

For overnight residents we can accommodate 3 cars, though these are moved to the lane or car park down the lane for the wedding itself, then brought back on site after the wedding photos are completed.

DISABLED ACCESS: Of course if you need to drop off and collect guests, or are happy to have the odd car parked on-site then we are happy to accommodate this too. Please talk to us before your wedding day and we can organise this.

Yes, the nearest is called Pelter Bridge Car Park just 50m before us on the lane. This is a Pay and Display Car Park and is patrolled by the National Park. It is £7 per day and only takes £1 coins! It does however get full first thing in the morning and is not a reliable fallback – Taxis or mini-buses are strongly recommended.

If you are staying in local accommodation and can walk here that is great. Please make sure we are aware and if the back gate onto the field needs unlocking we can be ready for you at your arrival time.

*DO NOT PARK IN THE PUB CAR PARK unless you are a resident there, as the landlord has recently taken to clamping unknown cars! *

We have our own on-site caterers and we source all of our food locally. We develop our own menus seasonally and have tried and tested our menus ensuring that we have control over the quality of what we offer, in addition to the provenance of the food we serve. We offer a wide and varied selection of food options, but if you have any special requests outside our normal menu selections, we will do our very best to accommodate them. 
Menu options are available here 

Yes! we have many years of experience and have built a fine reputation for attention to detail and flexibility, so whether vegan, dairy-free, wheat-free, gluten-free, or raw diet only, we can cater for you! There are additional charges for special diets outside of the normal menus meat or vegetarian options.

Unfortunately we cannot serve any food which has not been prepared or sourced by us. There are legal implication associated with this.

We offer an all-incluve wedding package which include your wedding cake which we will then serve as your third course. 
If you do wish to bring your own cake into the venue this can be arranged and we can serve it too. There is a £6 per head additional charge for this service.

As a fully licensed premise we do not offer any form of corkage, but do have a flexible range of beers, ciders and lagers plus a selection of red and white wines, Prosecco and English Sparkling wines.

We have a comprehensive list of wines, including our standard ranges, premium, ethical and organic options. We also offer local real ales and Peroni on draft in the fully stocked barn bar. 

Yes a bar tab is a great idea. This way we can offer your guests their own choice of drinks as and when they would like one.

This does not replace the need ofr certain parts of the wedding to have pre-arranged and pre-paid rounds of drinks, such as your post-cermeony celebratory drink, wine with dinner and a toast.
These are included in most packages. Arrival drinks and additional “rounds” can be arranged too for times when al lthe drinks need ot be ready at the same time. Likewise, we advise wine with a formal meal, to save queuing at the bar during food service. 

Any further drinks required can be purchased from the bar or, if authorised, added to the wedding tab.

We base all of our bar pricing on local pub prices with a full price list available on request.

Our house wines are a mid range selection for mour suppliers at EWGA and include:

  • Reds: Merlot, Rioja, Malbec and Cabernet Sauvignon.
  • Whites: Chardonnay, Pinot Grigio and Sauvignon Blanc 

Yes. Unlike many venues we will take responsibility for this (very stressful) element of your wedding. We have a Sonos sound system throughout the house and barn and can play the same music simultaneously. We will play your ceremony music for you, plus we can play your own playlists as background and milling music throughout your wedding. This way you have personalised music which plays a major part in setting the tone of your wedding day. 

You can use our Sonos System and playlists for a low key evening in the barn. If you want anything more then you can source your own entertainment to suit your style and budget. You only have time for evening entertainment if you’re having a full weekend wedding, there is not time with our 6 hour all-inclusive package.

If you are wanting arrange a single musician to play your ceremony music let us know, however you will need to explain to them that we don’t have parking for them on site.

We recognise that some couples are very into their music and this is a really important element of their day, others are very relaxed about the music and would prefer us to play background music from our archives. If you wish to design your own playlists then we can play these for you via our Sonos Sound System..

To complete your wedding booking we require an initial £1,000 holding fee to save the date. This is retained for a maximum period of 7 days whilst your contract is agreed, signed and returned. After this time your holding fee and any payments made on account are non-refundable. In addition to your holding fee, full payment of the wedding is required in stages with the final payment being due not less than 3 months before your wedding date. Any estimated extra costs must be paid in advance e.g.: Bar Tab, extra guests added at late notice, damage or loss (see below), any surplus is refunded to you within 7 days of your wedding.
We usually ask for £1,000 deposit / booking fee on booking
25% deposit payment 30 days later
25% 9 months before the wedding
25% 6 months before the wedding
Final 25% 3 months before the wedding.

You can make over-payments towards your wedding at any time, provided that the full amount is paid in advance of your balance due date as quoted on your wedding contract.  
If you cancel your wedding, the monies paid towards your wedding on account can be refunded on a sliding scale – Please refer to our website for our full terms and conditions for details. The initial holding fee is non-refundable after 7 days have elapsed from paying this. For these reasons we therefore strongly advise that you take out wedding insurance to insure against any unforeseen circumstances.

We do not allow dogs at cote How. 
This has been a recent change after renovating the venue and grounds, and has been a difficualt decision.
Read all about our reasons here: “Why your dog may prefer NOT to be at your wedding”

Cote How specialises in relaxed intimate adult focussed weddings and actively discourage children at weddings, as this can have a dramatic impact on the feel of the wedding. However we appreciate that everyone has differeing views and needs, and understand that the happy vouple may have no babysitters to rely on if they are all in attendance at the wedding, so we do allow up to 3 children of the wedidng couple only. (maximum of three under 10 years old).

Rather than worrying about this aspect, many couples have appreciated this restriction as it facilitates a much more relaxed day, with their guests taking advantage of a child free Lake District break themselves!

  • We do not discount childrens places.
  • We can offer children picnic bags in place of a meal.
  • Children are classed as UNDER TEN TEARS OLD
  • We have one high chair for use as required

We have a Honeymoon Suite which is for the wedding couple to stay overnight. This is only available with selected wedding styles and must be booked with your wedding package.:

  • Luxe Weekend Weddings
  • Selected Elopement Weddings

Guest accommodation is easily arranged locally and we can send out plenty of information on this when you book your wedding with us.


We have a luxury “Getting Ready Room” which is included in selected weekend wedding packages or you can add this room hire to selected wedding styles as an additional upgrade.
Please ask for details.

This is a wonderfully relaxed and purpose-designed preparation area for you and up to 3 guests plus your own hairdresser and makeup artist and allows for a chilled getting ready together experience in a lovely environment. Here you can also allow the official registrars to come upstairs to you, where they will interview you in the privacy of your own room, rather than in a car outside or a side room ahead of the ceremony. 

Not all weddings will have the option of adding the getting ready room, in these cases, you will arrive just in time and ready to go!


Cote How is a delightfully designed wedding-ready independent wedding venue, frequently refreshed, and often described as trendsetting! 

If you wish to bring along a few additional personal touches these are very welcome and can be brought along with the first guests: 

  • NAME CARDS for the dinner tables
  • CONFETTI – Dried petals ONLY

All we ask is that you are mindful of our envionmental impact and try to design any wedding decorations to have zero waste and minimal impact. Think local, useable, edible etc.


As we have no onsite parking we strongly recommend pre-booked professional transport services to ferry your guests in one or two trips from local pick up points. These can be from Windermere, Ambleside or Grasmere. These include:

  • Mountain Goat
  • Cumbria Classic Coaches

As we are in a rural area and no UBER here, Taxis can sometimes be unreliable/unavailable. Therefore please do not ask your guests to make their own way to the venue.
The lane leading up to Cote How is narrow and busy, and many taxis making individual trips will cause chaos, trying to turn and exit as other cars are entering the venue.

This is why we recommend minibus / private hire companies. However – if you do need a private taxi it is worth enquiring now, then confirming any booking closer to the date. 
All taxis must be pre-booked to collect for the agreed departure time.
Please note that we cannot ring taxis for guests. All pre-booked taxis will wait on the terrace in front of the house and will not go down to the barn. Make sure you are waiting on the front terrace if you have booked a taxi. Cote How cannot be held responsible for any taxi bookings.


Details of all transport modes will be sent to you after booking with us.

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